Tips for staying sober
Tried and tested methods on dealing with an alcoholic husband: this post is for the spouse of an alcoholic. The best thing I want to communicate is just that even though it's natural for you to feel imprisoned, you do have options. Acknowledging the options as options will make you feel better and will organize your situation in a way you may find helpful. There are usually 3 options that the wife of an alcoholic can choose from: Allow the alcoholism to remain your spouse’s … [Read more...]
Alcoholics and addicts tend to make excuses. I know a lot of them, and I'm here to share. Here’s something alcoholics have in common with everyone else: we have well-developed defense mechanisms. We know how to protect ourselves, and that might mean protecting our feeling from what we think are attacks. Basically, we tell ourselves stories. We also know how to lash out at others, even if we’re not lashing out in a way that’s extremely dramatic. Now, addicts aren’t exactly nuts or in some … [Read more...]
As I’ve made clear before, completely kicking alcohol and staying off it for decades is absolutely the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’ve never been more proud of anything. Discover why in that excellent book. As you begin kicking the alcohol habit, be guaranteed a difficult path. It’s a long, long road, and it will be hard. That’s partly because there are just so many facets to the process—trying to adjust to all of them is just not easy. The length also becomes an endurance test. … [Read more...]
How to help an alcoholic in your family? People refer to alcoholism as a family disease, one that reaches out and touches the whole family. So what are these damaging effects exactly, and how do you lend support to a family member who is suffering from alcoholism? Alcoholism- A Family Disease? OK, let’s start looking at the factors. Let’s start with the children. Quiz: one parent is an alcoholic and the other isn’t. Who does the child have an easier time reading and dealing with? That’s … [Read more...]
I’m Sam Lorden Bowles, a recovered alcoholic with nineteen years of sobriety. I wanted to start this blog to clearly relate a lot of relevant information on alcohol recovery and the sober life.
I want to give back, having established a stable, happy life. I run my own heating and cooling business and enjoy reading and running.
Sam Lorden Bowles