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25 Tips For Staying Sober

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This post will give you a nice handy reference to many tips for not just getting sober, but for staying sober. This distills the wealth of information on this blog—not all of it—but some of the basic ideas having to do with remaining sober for the long haul. 1. Motivate yourself every day It’s hard […]

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Advice on Forgiveness for Recovered Alcoholics

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Forgiving without excusing. Being a recovered addict—of any kind—means more than just laying off the substance in question.  That’s kind of unfair, because doing just that is extremely hard.  But living as a recovered addict means keeping the rest of your house in order.  You have to get into harmony emotionally—it’s your entire emotional life […]

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Dry Drunk Syndrome–Is it Beatable?

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Don’t feel the same after you’ve quit. A Definition of Dry-Drunk Syndrome When I moved from Albuquerque to Cincinnati, I went to some AA meetings and made it a point to network with recovering drinkers.  As you’ll recall from previous posts, it’s important to have at least some connection with recovering alcoholics as you go […]

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Pros and Cons of Relapse Prevention

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Friends, today’s topic is something that quite a few recoverers may not know about.  Relapse Prevention is a while school of thought developed by addiction counselors and therapists and other professionals.  As the name implies, this approach explicitly labels the component of the process in which the recovered alcoholic could possibly hit a relapse. A […]

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Breaking Good: What Breaking Bad Can Teach a Recovering Alcoholic

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Be the Reverse Walter White The great television show Breaking Bad is all about transformation.  It grabbed people’s attention because it showed such a shocking transformation, which was the centerpiece of a very controversial and hard-to-watch story.  We watch, season after season, a school teacher getting into the manufacture of crystal meth, becoming known for […]

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Are You Enabling an Alcoholic?

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Enabling an Alcoholic, Meaning well isn’t always enough. Today, let’s consider the interesting story of H and me.  H is my girlfriend, who is a rock and who has given me an incredible amount of help over the years.  There’s no question about any of those things.  But this strange story will involve some things […]

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Taking Charge of Your Recovery

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Take Charge of Your Recovery There’s a paradox: recovery is insanely hard.  When something is insanely hard, the tendency is to back off, slack off, maybe quit a little.  But the paradox, of course, is that if you don’t work super hard at it, it will be impossible.  It’s something that requires your full attention […]

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Controlling Your Emotions During Recovery

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They call it emotional sobriety. One of the keys to recovering is to gain some self-control.  Obviously self-control is absolutely central to quitting a substance and to staying that way.  But as you start to live sober, you’ll gain control over yourself in a much larger sense.  You’ll control, not just the urge to drink, […]

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Overcoming Resentment During Your Recovery

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Today’s topic will be resentment: harboring it and then proceeding to vanquish it. I want to start off with a story of my ex-girlfriend, whom we’ll call Debbie.  Debbie was a medium-height brunette with a great sense of humor and quite a lot of attitude.  I kind of liked the attitude, but only when I […]

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Should You Go Into Rehab For Depression

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Is Rehab for Depression? I’ve spent a lot of time writing about rehab, about various types of programs for getting past alcoholism.  But what about depression?  You know people who take Zoloft, Prozac, etc. for depression; and those who see a therapist for it.  You may also be aware of inpatient programs—rehab—for very severe depression. […]